As promised, here are some tips to make sure you’re dancing all night long and not left standing on the sidelines:
1) Get off to a good start
This one needs explaining. I’ve already covered in a previous post that yes it really is ok to ask men to dance. I also promised that if you really don’t like doing that I would you give you advice on how to get men to ask you to dance. I lied just a little bit… think of it more as…a compromise. If you’ve arrived, you’re itching to dance and no-one’s asked you yet, try just asking someone once. If you’re in a new setting and you don’t really know anyone, men in certain clubs might stick to their comfort zone of asking women they’ve already danced with in the past, because they know what to expect. (Yawn). If you go ahead and ask a guy to start off with, your chances of being asked to dance after this are much higher…. a) because you have demonstrated that you can actually follow a lead and b) men are much more likely to grab someone coming off the dancefloor than head over to people hanging out on the side, especially if they don’t know you. Which leads me to my next point…
2) Don’t stand on the side looking miserable
It’s easy after two, three (four?) songs have gone by to start feeling full of self- doubt or downright rejected. But if you were a guy, would you pick the girl that’s smiling or the one that looks miserable?
3) Standing in a group of girls or having intense conversation makes you less approachable
If you came with a group of girlfriends, believe it or not, some men just do not know which one to pick, so instead, he’ll grab a girl who just finished dancing. Either that, or he’s shy, and so approaching a group of females is intimidating. Equally, if you are having an interesting and absorbing conversation, don’t be surprised that guys will probably leave you to it. Not to say you shouldn’t be talking and getting to know people, but once a song’s finished and you’re ready to dance, make that evident in your body language.
4) As weird as it may sound, some men go by how you’re dressed as a guess for whether you dance or not
Again, this mainly applies to going out to dance in a new club or city. If you’re wearing inappropriate shoes (spindle high stilettos or trainers), then some men read this as a sign that you stumbled into the club somehow, but that you don’t actually dance. This is a minor point, and when it comes down to it you can wear what you want, but if you really don’t want to ask men to dance, it’s something to keep in mind!
That’s all for today lovely salsa people! It’s Saturday…will you be out dancing?